Warning: This story talks about death, suicide and grief. Until last year, Ellidy Vlug was living her dream life with the man she calls her big love. But when her life partner — Aussie snowboarding champion Alex Chumpy Pullin —died suddenly in a freak fishing accident, Ellidy's reality changed forever. He's gone. This is shit, this is your life now … I'm a widow. But that loneliness can be compounded by the unexpected judgement of others — with young widows sometimes evoking feelings of fear or even anger in outsiders, according to Perth-based grief expert Dr Lauren Breen. Nikki Burnett, 31, has encountered those sorts of attitudes since losing her husband Dav to suicide in
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