It places the marriage at risk of infidelity and of divorce. Another misconception is that sex-starved couples present their sex life as their primary issue when they come into couples therapy. In fact, more often than not, I ask about it in the first session. But when the higher-desire spouse is either directly or indirectly rejected sexually, he or she can shift rapidly into anger. It may be focused on the wet towel on the floor, or the beer in the den, or the tricycle left in the driveway. It usually pushes the other spouse even further away. John was a laid-back guy, who rarely complained about anything. If we miss one Friday night, I know not to ask until next Friday night.
Connie Matthiessen In the movie Far As of Heaven, four young housewives discuss their sex lives over lunchtime daiquiris. The boldest of the group coaxes the others to reveal how often their husbands want to make love. Be able to you imagine? Sex is presented at the same time as a wifely duty, an activity so as to, while not unpleasant, is engaged all the rage because one's husband insists on it.